I came across this site today in search of an image that depicts my hope to gain the attention of those who skim over the front page of this blog. You’ll see I added a pic from the page, and have linked it back to the page. But I also wanted to take a minute to commend and outwardly appreciate the efforts of those who have created this work of art.
People always say that children should come with an instruction manual, well that is part of the problem. There are tens of thousands of manuals out there and all of them say different things.
Even in the new millennium the experts can’t quite agree on the “right” way to raise a child.
The problem is, each of us has our own idea of what defines successful parenting. Sometimes those ideas change from day to day. Experts can’t agree, and we can’t agree.
For me, my parenting philosophy came from many sources. My own childhood was a huge factor but so was my fascination with psychology, with finding out what makes the human mind tick.
When I realized how easily we can damage our children for life, how careful we must be with their fragile minds I actually scared myself. As parents, we have one of the most important jobs on earth, shaping a future generation.
… What we do in our home can affect society for many years to come. That sort of puts your parenting goals in perceptive doesn’t it? …
… All I really intended to do in the beginning was remove the hypocrisy from my parenting. I refused to ask something of my children that I was not willing to demand from myself. I didn’t realize I had become an advocate of non-violent parenting until well after the decision had been made. I just began wondering why people hit their children and then tell them not to hit. Why they are disrespectful of their children yet demand respect from them.
We are our children’s first and best models of expected behavior. Our children are going to do what we do, not do what we say. When we lie to someone saying we aren’t feeling well so we can’t attend that birthday party, our children are watching us. The person on the other end of the phone might not know we are lying but our children do. They are learning from us even then. –
… I had to work very hard with my own children to help them understand that being disrespectful of another person, even if we don’t like them or what they are doing, is always wrong.
I didn’t do it just to protect the teacher, I did it to protect myself in the future as well.
If I am going to demand respect from my children, I must demand it in all situations, not just situations of my choosing –
I am in complete agreement. I have witnessed the carelessness with which some parents behave in the presence of children and am appalled by their complete lack of respect for themselves, the entity in question, and their children. However, I am then not at all surprised when I see the poor behavior and attitudes of their children displayed either when the parent is not present, or often in direct confrontation of the parent.
… What goes on behind closed doors often transfers to public. Respect is important in public, but even more so in private. When parents are openly disrespectful to their children, or even towards one another they are encouraging the cycle of disrespect to continue.
Such a crucial understanding to accept and adopt, religiously. Seriously. If the masses would do just this one thing, many of the world’s conflict and sorrow would cease. Just think, in a single generation, if enough of us chose this path, what difference could be made in our communities and society of the future!