Initially, as with so many of his verbal poop sessions, Mr. Pearl says something semi-useful.
“Never adopt children even close to the age of your own”.
There is a good amount of information and experience that discusses the intelligence of not fostering children near the age of your existing minor family members. Why is this? Simple logic. One must intelligently assess what effects there will be on the home’s existing children by including other children. The incoming children each have their life story, and all that comes with it. If you think the incoming children will not affect the existing family, as well as individual dynamics in the home, you are incorrect.
Notice how I have stopped explaining this thought. The omission is intentional. I hope it will cause you to think.
If you are only now contemplating evil, danger, negative, possibly harmful concerns… fostering & adoption is not a good option for you.
“Never adopt children even close to the age of your own. You should be past child bearing age, and your children should be at least 10-15 years older than the adopted kids. I don’t think there is any such thing as an orphanage raised child who has not been a participant in sexual perversion. If you are older and your kids are grown, it is a wonderful, full time ministry to adopt foreign kids. You will experience heartache, possibly failure, but you may just save a soul from sure destruction. But if there is failure, at least your kids will not go down with them.”
“Foster parenting is for people whose children are grown or for families with older children who take in the very young.” Comments written by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy Ministries.
I am nauseated by these words. Sick. I had a prospective adoptive family contact me in fear after they read this article. I preached my opinion, based upon God’s Word and my personal experience, to this sweet mom. Then I went to the site that ignited her fears, and I felt sad, sick, and frustrated beyond words.
I left a comment on Mr. Pearl’s sight in response to his advice for families. Below are my thoughts to Mr. Pearl and the other parents who have left comments on Mr. Pearl’s article, the very parents who may be timid toward adoption due to fears that man has set in their hearts. I don’t know if Mr. Pearl will post my comments on his site, but I do not want any of you to read his words of caution and be turned away from the very heart of God with His command to care for orphans and widows in their distress. Here’s a copied/pasted version of the comment I left for Mr. Pearl and his readers:
I am so sad to see such a negative viewpoint toward adoption and fostering with so many parameters being set up by man with regards to orphan care and fostering. It is God’s command to care for orphans and widows in their distress. This, according to Scripture, is pure and undefiled religion. Nowhere in the Bible does it set parameters on WHO should care for orphans (older couples past child-bearing years, etc.), nor does it set parameters on the value of the life of an orphan (regardless of the child’s history or being raised in an orphanage). All children are precious in His sight, regardless of what country they live in or whether they were orphaned or have lived in an orphanage or have suffered abuse. They are valued by God and He asks us to care for them. No child ever asks to be hurt/molested (including our bio kids), and all children (and adults) are valued and redeemable. His blood is our redemption. There is no sin too great for redemption, but if we all turn our backs on the orphans who God calls us to care for, they may never know redemption.
There’s more. Click the source link at the top and go read.. and cross reference with his article here.
What this comes down to is whether you, as an individual, can function as one. Whether you, individually, can think for yourself, choose your path and values, and in your own mind make the distinction between what is going to improve life for yourself and others, and what will improve the life of others you interact with.
Oh how I wish Mr. Roddenberry had lived longer.
I will work on my thoughts.