{"id":264,"date":"2010-03-18T22:00:54","date_gmt":"2010-03-18T22:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nogreaterjoychildren.wordpress.com\/?p=264"},"modified":"2010-03-18T22:00:54","modified_gmt":"2010-03-18T22:00:54","slug":"beyond-spanking-beyond-training-a-look-at-our-littlest-minds","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/2010\/03\/beyond-spanking-beyond-training-a-look-at-our-littlest-minds\/","title":{"rendered":"Beyond Spanking, Beyond Training: A Look At Our Littlest\u00a0Minds"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Something that has hit me like a wrecking ball in all this research I&#8217;ve conducted in the last few weeks is an awareness of how what I do, EVERYTHING I DO, as far as my child is involved, literally molds and shapes her very existence. Mentally, physically, psychologically, emotionally.. every single aspect of her being is vulnerable to outside experiences, and will be throughout her entire life, but never more so than these early years when her brain is actually physically still developing the foundation it will function from until her final breath.<\/h3>\n<p>For example, previously, when my husband would depart for the office and my daughter would be upset and ask for him to come back, I would tell her she was ok, Mama was with her, and that Papa would return shortly.<\/p>\n<p>One day, while saying these very words, I actually focused on her face, and her body&#8217;s response to what I was saying.\u00a0 She was angry.\u00a0 With me!\u00a0 She knew Papa would eventually return, but she was NOT ok!\u00a0 She was upset.\u00a0 She was sad, and she was experiencing the anxiety and discomfort of having her Papa leave her presence.\u00a0 She did not need me to point out the obvious, nor did she need me to invalidate her feelings by trying to reverse or counter them.\u00a0 She needed my empathy and comforting.<\/p>\n<p>Now, when my little one expresses a feeling or emotional response to something, I will ask her for more details and talk to her about it as if I were also a two year old that is not capable of understanding what an adult does.\u00a0 I will hold her, tell her I miss her Papa (or whatever) too, and ask her what I can do to help how she feels.\u00a0 Notice here, I do not ask her how I can help her feel better, because it&#8217;s likely she doesn&#8217;t need to feel better, but needs to feel the impact of the emotion that she is experiencing, and work through it as her mind dictates.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This goes back to experiencing life through the eyes of the child.<\/strong> Now, I have even more reason to do so, not only to prevent my little one from feeling dis-valued or simply &#8220;humored&#8221;, but now I am aware of what chemicals are released upon stress (especially in forming brains) and how these chemicals affect the mind and its development.\u00a0 This is a HUGE responsibility, if you ask me.\u00a0 We&#8217;re not only talking about this person&#8217;s childhood, nor just her future as a functioning adult, but we&#8217;re talking about her in her entirety.\u00a0 ALL that she is.. I have the responsibility to guarantee that nothing I do to or with, or around her, is going to cause her mind to be affected negatively or to force it to function in a diminished capacity.<\/p>\n<p>Do you feel the impact and weight of that?\u00a0 I&#8217;m still on the floor&#8230; it&#8217;s been about 10 days.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#800000;\">When I shout because I loose my temper, my daughter&#8217;s brain responds and floods certain areas with certain chemicals, and after time, if this keeps happening, these areas of the brain will not develop as they should. (If you want the science behind this, ask me.)<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#800000;\">When my husband and I argue &#8211; same principle, only even worse, because her logic places her in-between as a peacemaker. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>I cannot fathom intentionally subjecting my child to any form of trauma.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s define trauma &#8211;\u00a0 Take a look at the dictionary&#8217;s definition, and<strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/child-myths\/201001\/nice-knock-down-argument-defining-trauma-and-investigating-metaphors\" target=\"_blank\">read this article<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left:30px;\">\u2013noun,plural<br \/>\nPathology.<br \/>\na.\u00a0 a body wound or shock produced by sudden physical injury,  as from violence or accident.<br \/>\nb.\u00a0 the condition produced by  this; traumatism.<br \/>\nPsychiatry.<br \/>\na.an experience that  produces psychological injury or pain.<br \/>\nb. the  psychological injury so caused.<br \/>\nc. An event or situation that causes great distress and disruption.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#0000ff;\">______________________________________<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#0000ff;\">Below is an excerpt from an article that discusses, in relatively simple English, what happens when children are experienced to situations they perceive as threatening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Many of the articles and stories presented on the NGJ website (examples to follow, but just glance at the topics on the right and you&#8217;ll find plenty) are very descriptive and explain how their method causes the child to experience fear, survival responses, and dread.\u00a0 They also discuss what to do when your child attempts to evade you coming after him to spank him &#8211; track him down and do it harder &#8211; they will learn to not try to escape.\u00a0 If logic were being used instead of terror and power tactics, though the child might not like the natural consequences to their actions, they&#8217;re not going to have the same responses as they might to the knowledge that they&#8217;re about to be struck, and humiliated, and that they have no choice but to submit because if they don&#8217;t, they know their &#8220;punishment&#8221; will just become that much worse.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.childtrauma.org\/ctamaterials\/trau_CAMI.asp\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\"><span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\"><strong>The Neurobiological  Responses to Threat<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\">When a child is  threatened, various neurophysiological and  neuroendocrine responses are initiated. If they persist, there will be  \u2018use-dependent\u2019 alterations in the key neural systems involved in the  stress  response. These include the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis.  In animal models,  chronic activation of the HPA system in response to stress has negative  consequences.  Chronic activation may &#8220;wear out&#8221; parts of the body including the  hippocampus, a  key area involved in memory, cognition and arousal. This may be  occurring in traumatized  children as well. Dr. Martin Teicher and colleagues have demonstrated  hippocampal\/limbic  abnormalities in a sample of abused children.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\">Another set of neural  systems that become sensitized by repetitive  stressful experiences are the catecholamine systems including the  dopaminergic and  noradrenergic systems. These key neurochemical systems become altered  following traumatic  stress. The result is a cascade of associated changes in attention,  impulse control,  sleep, fine motor control and other functions mediated by the  catecholamines. As these  catecholamines and their target regions (e.g., amygdaloid nuclei) also  mediate a variety  of other emotional, cognitive and motor functions, sensitization of  these systems by  repetitive re-experiencing of the trauma leads to dysregulation in many  functions. A  traumatized child may, therefore, exhibit motor hyperactivity, anxiety,  behavioral  impulsivity, sleep problems, tachycardia and hypertension. In  preliminary studies by our  group, we have seen altered cardiovascular regulation (e.g., increased  resting heartrate)  suggesting altered autonomic regulation at the level of the brainstem.  In other studies,  clonidine, an alpha2 adrenergic receptor partial agonist has been  demonstrated to be an  effective pharmacotherapeutic agent, presumably by altering the  sensitivity of the  noradrenergic systems. Studies by Dr. Michael DeBellis and colleagues  have demonstrated  other catecholamine and neuroendocrine alterations in a sample of  sexually abused girls.  These indirect studies all support the hypotheses of a use-dependent  alteration in the  brainstem catecholamine systems following childhood trauma.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\"><span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\"><strong> <\/strong><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\"><span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\"><strong>Implications  of Trauma-related Alterations in Brain Development<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\">All experiences change  the brain \u2013 yet not all experiences have  equal \u2018impact\u2019 on the brain. Because the brain is organizing at such an  explosive rate in the first years of life, experiences during this  period have more  potential to influence the brain \u2013 in positive and negative ways.  Traumatic  experiences and therapeutic experiences impact the same brain and are  limited by the same  principles of neurophysiology. Traumatic events impact the multiple  areas of the brain  that respond to the threat. Use-dependent changes in these areas create  altered neural  systems that influence future functioning. In order to heal (i.e., alter  or modify  trauma), therapeutic interventions must activate those portions of the  brain that have  been altered by the trauma. Understanding the persistence of  fear-related emotional,  behavioral, cognitive and physiological patterns can lead to focused  therapeutic  experiences that modify those parts of the brain impacted by trauma. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family:Arial;font-size:small;\">Our evolving  understanding of neurodevelopment suggests directions for  assessment, intervention and policy. Primary among these is a clear  rationale for early  identification and aggressive, pro-active interventions that will  improve our ability to  help traumatized and neglected children. The earlier we intervene, the  more likely we will  be to preserve and express a child\u2019s potential.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div><em><br \/>\n<\/em><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Another set of neural systems that become sensitized by repetitive stressful experiences are the catecholamine systems including the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems. These key neurochemical systems become altered following traumatic stress. The result is a cascade of associated changes in attention, impulse control, sleep, fine motor control and other functions mediated by the catecholamines. As these catecholamines and their target regions (e.g., amygdaloid nuclei) also mediate a variety of other emotional, cognitive and motor functions, sensitization of these systems by repetitive re-experiencing of the trauma leads to dysregulation in many functions. A traumatized child may, therefore, exhibit motor hyperactivity, anxiety, behavioral impulsivity, sleep problems, tachycardia and hypertension. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[49,54],"tags":[572,50,133,573,137,55,56,168,5,215,247,262,69,309,314,71,348,368,7,384,80,430,460,475],"class_list":["post-264","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-abuse","category-child-abuse","tag-abuse","tag-appropriate-behaviors-boundaries","tag-catecholamine","tag-child-abuse","tag-childs-response-to-threat","tag-childhood-self-esteem","tag-childrens-needs","tag-corporal-punishment","tag-discipline","tag-fear","tag-hippocampus-response-to-imposed-or-expected-stress","tag-if-they-resist-being-spanked","tag-natural-parenting-attentive-intuitive-nonviolent","tag-neurobiological-responses-to-threat","tag-neurochemical-systems-activated-by-ngjs-methods","tag-parents","tag-permanent-effect-on-developing-brain","tag-psychological-trauma","tag-punishment","tag-repetitive-stressful-experiences","tag-science","tag-spank-them-more","tag-through-the-eyes-of-a-child","tag-trauma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/264","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=264"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/264\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1131,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/264\/revisions\/1131"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=264"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=264"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=264"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}