{"id":1480,"date":"2016-01-11T14:13:50","date_gmt":"2016-01-11T21:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/?p=1480"},"modified":"2016-01-11T17:01:09","modified_gmt":"2016-01-12T00:01:09","slug":"even-ground-why-its-a-better-place-to-be","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/2016\/01\/even-ground-why-its-a-better-place-to-be\/","title":{"rendered":"Even Ground: Why It’s a Better Place to Be"},"content":{"rendered":"

From where are, and where we’ve come, we are all\u00a0connected, here, on level ground. <\/em><\/span><\/h4>\n

I\u00a0read\u00a0an article today on Elephant Journal, of which I’ve linked below. The author is a mum of a young girl, who while endeavoring to support fellow parents and children, came into her own moment of awakening recently. This gained insight\u00a0not only opened her eyes, but reaffirmed much of her intention to parent gently, with respect, and in reverence of the little person in her care.<\/p>\n

It’s not too often I come across a truly kindred spirit in the world of parenting, living with children, nonviolence, empathic connection, etc., but when I do, the smile doesn’t leave my face for days. Today, Shonnie Lavender has brought me such a smile, and my gratitude is spilling out.<\/p>\n

Recently, with my\u00a0pregnancy, the continued work on the house renovations, travel, holiday events and activities, and the general sense of such “a lot”, we’ve had more of a challenge remaining connected than is the usual flow. Life is about change, movement, growth, expansion, and experiencing. Sometimes we get caught up in the whirlwind of all of it and forget to choose our actions and reactions thoughtfully and with intent to benefit. This article speaks to this for me, as well as reaffirms the beauty and value of revering our little ones, and their incredible journey of childhood.<\/p>\n

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Shonnie writes<\/a>\u00a0–<\/p>\n

“Mentally, it\u2019s much easier to parent by merely replicating what we experienced as children. It\u2019s what we know and it comes \u201cnaturally\u201d to us. But I\u2019m not content to do things because they\u2019re easy. I intend to build a relationship that is mutually-respectful, no matter what. A year after I first discovered my habit of usurping my daughter\u2019s power, my belief in my own superiority still shows up on occasion. Whenever I notice that I\u2019ve treated my daughter\u2019s authoritative voice as less valid than my own, I look for ways to restore the balance of power in our relationship.<\/p>\n

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When I wrote vows to my daughter a few weeks after she was born, I promised to take a conscious path as her mother. I committed to do what I could to allow her to stay in touch with her true self, to trust herself and to live as she was meant to live, not just the way I thought she should live.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The rest of the article can be read here: The Surprising Parenting Insight I Gained<\/a>…<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

From where are, and where we’ve come, we are all\u00a0connected, here, on level ground. I\u00a0read\u00a0an article today on Elephant Journal, of which I’ve linked below. The author is a mum of a young girl, who while endeavoring to support fellow parents and children, came into her own moment of awakening recently. This gained insight\u00a0not only […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1485,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[596,585,542,1,332],"tags":[519,597,598,55,162,59,520,305,521,409,599,493],"class_list":["post-1480","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-autonomy","category-demanding-vs-requesting","category-expectations","category-revered","category-parenting","tag-attentive","tag-authority-vs-connection","tag-autonomy","tag-childhood-self-esteem","tag-confidence","tag-gentle-and-effective-parenting-resources-support","tag-intuitive","tag-natural-parenting","tag-nonviolent","tag-self-esteem","tag-trusting-their-process","tag-value-of-being-a-child"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1480","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1480"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1480\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1510,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1480\/revisions\/1510"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1485"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1480"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1480"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.childhoodrevered.com\/sentient\/parenting\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1480"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}